Lopsided Coaching

When executives or leaders receive coaching by an outside executive coach they should remember to bring that ‘coach’ in to meet and talk with the members of the team that leader is working with. Otherwise leaders are often left getting advice, perspectives, information limited by their lone perspective.  Which, is very likely incomplete and sometimes out of touch altogether.

I have seen this happen where someone goes to someone else for input or coaching and that person is completely disconnected from the organization, actual work, and the people involved other than the one leader.  This can create more problems, not less, especially if the leader really trusts the person giving the input.  When the advice or input is then brought back into some kind of action at the organization, cynicism can grow and push back happens because the people doing the work feel completely misrepresented, misunderstood, and manipulated.  Then the leader goes back to report the problem only to have the coach double down on what’s already not working.

When I work with leaders and we embark on a 5 Dysfunctions of a Team workshop where, beforehand, everyone takes an online assessment of how the team is doing against the 5 dysfunctions, I always ask the leader how good they think trust is on their team.  And I have never once had a leader guess that it was worse than it was.  In fact, it’s the opposite.  They always think their team’s trust is much better than it is only to be shocked to discover that it’s rarely as good as they think.  And then we get to work.

If you want to use a business coach to help develop you as a leader, be sure and bring them in to work with the team too.  You may have great conversations with that coach and build a wonderful rapport, which is great, but just remember its likely to be lopsided and that can do damage.

Tania Fowler

Interplay Coaching, Carmichael, CA 95608

Tania grew up in San Francisco. She went to college at the University of California at Santa Barbara where she received her BA degree in Geological Sciences. Tania worked with Shell Oil Company in Houston, Texas in the early 80’s during the oil energy boom. She hit the ‘pause’ button on her work life to become the mother of three sons, thankfully not all at once, but one at a time. After staying home for twelve years and taking care of her precious, if not raucous brood, she received her real estate license and worked as a realtor for seven years in Sacramento, California, quickly reaching the select level of Masters Club. While selling real estate, she honed her communication, coaching, and people skills and decided that she was more interested in helping people realize their work dreams than their dream homes.

Tania has worked with hundreds of business executives and their teams, managers, and educators since 2005. She has received an Executive Coaching Certification from the UC Berkeley Haas School of Business Executive Ed Program. Additionally she trained with CTI (Coaches Training Institute) and NLP of California (Neuro-linguistic Programming). Tania has coached with internationally known business coaches Robert Hargrove (Masterful Coaching) and Mark Rittenberg (Corporate Scenes). She is also a certified Myers-Briggs Personality Indicator consultant specializing in Temperament and Interaction Styles. Tania has worked with numerous organizations including: CGI, Seagate Technology, EDS, California Public Utilities Commission, UC Berkeley Haas School of Executive Ed as well as many nonprofits and individual executives.

Interplay Coaching brings years of experience focusing on unbeatable performance by working with executive leaders and their teams to create a work environment obsessed with aligning their actions, communications, and leadership with their business purposes and objectives; essentially helping to build healthier organizations. Whether working with businesses or individuals Tania’s focus remains the same: to recognize and stand in the belief that the potential of an organization or an individual is even greater than what you see before you at any given time. If you want to be better she wants to help get you there.